Today being the 18th February, 2012 I believe I have no reason to fear the past. Rather I will accept what is and move forward with the mentality of new thought. This is my diary right? So I bare my soul with no reason or need to hide a single detail. I feel as though lifes design, though viewed as cruel and unnecessary by some is quite a smart one. With every experience gained we all learn a lesson whether we realise right away or not.
For the past eleven months I’ve endured a bitter-sweet relationship and I can honestly say as painful as it was to endure at its very horrible moments and also at its also very bitter-sweet end, I have learnt a lot. I know what and what not to do for my newly formed gem of a relationship. While there is much more to learn I will carry the lessons I’ve learnt with me in both heart and mind.
1) LOVE is not enough! Yep you read me right. Love is not enough and will never be enough. It takes commitment and compromise and nurturing and honesty. I can always love you but that doesnt mean I want to be with you or even work on it to have it blossom into something else..
2)Speak UP! So on countless occasions I’ve voiced my opinions and pains and points of happiness only to get a nod or the occasional “okay kewl.” Never settle for that! Never play timid when it comes to stating how you feel. Your in a relationship…NOT CONDUCTING AN INTERVIEW! Let your partner know that you have the right to voice your thoughts and receive a suitable response…
2.5)Never bottle up your hurt. Its so much healthier to speak about it. Sometimes you feel its best to just let it go and never mention the thing that’s got you upset cause it will only upset your partner, even though he was the one that did something to piss you off. Get upset and let it all out! Let him know how you feel and ensure he understands what has you feeling this way. If not he’ll do it again. Some men test you to see if they can get away with ‘murder.’
3)Your a human being Not a Doll..Not being conceited but I’ve accepted the fact that I’m a handsome young man and any guy given the opportunity to be my significant other would be lucky and I would be pleased to be his arm candy but folks Never get stuck playing the role of ARM CANDY. Your a person and not a thing to show off to the his friends and then be neglected.
4)Honesty…Be honest…Be honest..BE HONEST…and this doesnt only go for you..he needs to be Totally honest with you too. You should know your partner and if he’s lying. If you feel he is, confront him. Dont sweep it under the rug. You will only end up getting hurt down the line when the truth finally comes out…trust me x_x
5)Mistakes..Have you ever heard the excuse ‘it just happened” ‘it wasnt planned and I couldnt stop it’ or my personal favourite “It just happened, it wasnt planned but you know I love you so it shouldnt be a big deal if something should happen outside of this relationship cause your the one I’m coming home to?” Uhm I dont think I’m an unreasonable person and I am capable of forgiveness but uhm I think those excuses are so weak! Why place yourself in a situation that will cause you to cheat in the first place? Oh and lets not forget “It was only 3 times during our relationship that something happened” O_o ugh! Are you for real? Its not only the amount but its the fact that you set yourself up in that situation more than once. I’m not a saint but when I say I’m committed I stay committed.
I’m nowhere near to a relationship expert but I know what I want and need and I also know what I dont want or need. No one deserves to be disrespected or abused in any way. Its about time you realise how beautiful and smart and talented you are. You are one of a kind and the person in your life or the person to come should see that. Embrace the beauty that is…
Your Cutie
Dreamboi ^_^
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